The Traumatized Child Self or Let’s Go to the Movies

When you go to a megaplex movie theater, you can walk in and see a variety of kinds of movies. Each brings out different emotions in its audience. A love story might make you feel  happy or nostalgic. A thriller could make you feel tense and scared. A science fiction or fantasy movie might bring you into a new world you had never imagined. It might make you feel hopeful or hopeless depending on how the story goes. As soon as someone enters the theater, they start to feel the appropriate feelings. But whether anyone attends the show or not, it costs the theater in energy to run the movie and keep the room comfortable.

When a traumatic event happens to a child, that child stores the memory of the events, the emotions and body sensations that are felt during that event and, the most damaging of all, the negative beliefs the child has about himself because of the event. Example – A child is beaten. He might feel afraid in his lungs, angry in his fists and sad in his heart. He might believe he is a bad person and will never amount to anything. All of this becomes a movie the child self from that moment , that age, plays over and over, whether his older self is watching it or not. In fact, the child tries to keep it from his older self, so that that part can continue to grow up and move on. There are many such ‘movies’ playing for each time the child faces a traumatic event. The more movies, the more energy is needed to keep them all playing but, hidden from the older self. Then one day one of these movies get triggered, now grown, perhaps he finds himself hitting his own child, and the ‘movie’ the child self has been guarding becomes present for the older self complete with the event, emotions, body sensations, and negative beliefs. It feels as if it just happened in living color. This is called a flashback.

When good psychotherapy is done, these trauma ‘movies’ are processed and shut down one by one, freeing up energy to be used in the present moment. This work also frees the child self to finish growing up and join the older self. The adult self may find he stops acting out in childish ways when he gets upset. This work can be very empowering for the client and help him feel like a confident grownup.

 

 

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2 Responses to The Traumatized Child Self or Let’s Go to the Movies

  1. Yoly Zentella says:

    A great synopsis of how trauma is stored and used over and over again if it is not processed. The description of shutting down the movie or the particular trauma frame is very accurate. A client told me once that the way that GR worked for her trauma was like “una puerta se cerro” a door closed, one that she would not need to open again, nor want to!

    Having used GR with clients I found that they liked it because not only did they get rid of some very ugly thoughts about themselves that they were carrying around, and feelings, but it was also very relaxing.

    Yoly
    Nuevo Mexico

    • Yoly, Thanks so much for sharing these stories about Gentle. I am so happy your clients got relief from the process. Glad you liked the article as well. Hope all is well with you. Diane

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